Venting

 I want to start of by explaining....that I feel so very very lucky that we never experienced a miscarriage or a fetal demise. We were too young and dumb to even worry about it as much as I would knowing what I know now!

I have taken care of many women who have lost babies at all stages of their pregnancy. And I have many friends who have lost pregnancies.

So I am not without empathy or understanding.

But to see celebrities SUCK THIS SUBJECT dry in order to keep their name in the news just irritates me no end!

I am sure most people will be able to figure out who I am talking about.

I get it - it is devastating. I even get wanting photos. Shoot we took photos of the baby and held onto them for a year in case the mother/family ever wanted them. We put together memory boxes for them to take home with them, or come back and get.

But know this - there is not one woman I have ever met that needs/has to have photos to remember the experience of losing a baby....it is burned into her heart and soul forever. Every minute of the process - from moment of conception until delivery and beyond. 

But you know - not everyone in this world is privileged enough to LIVE OFF of this for how long now?

And really - a month out and you still need a nurse at home to care for you?
WHY?

And what does this tell the average woman? Her loss wasnt as important and earth shaking as yours?

That maybe she shoulda/woulda/coulda had a nurse if she made more money? Had better insurance?

Just because you have never been as talented and famous as your husband, doesnt mean that you have to milk every second you can to make sure your photo is in front of everyone everyday.

Give it a rest.

My heart goes out to everyone else who has experienced these losses.