It took 20+ years but we finally laid my parents to rest, and maybe not surprisingly that has brought me so much peace.
My mom died and my dad kept her cremains on the mantel. And then my dad died. And he had already made arrangements via the Neptune society. And he most specifically did not want any services. So we followed his wishes. But then we needed to decided what to do with the cremains of both my parents.
But there were not veteran's cemeteries close by. The closest one was out in the valley.....so I thot about scattering ashes but where? On the golf course? In Hawaii? Nothing felt right.
We went to the Monterey County Fair and there was a booth talking about all the things they were hoping to do with the closure of Fort Ord and one of the things was a veteran's cemetery. But it was just in the "thought" process. And somehow we knew this was going to be the right thing. And we started following the info about it but it was going so slowly.....
And to be honest, we forgot about it. Then last year the father of an old friend of hubby's died and we went to the services out at the San Joaquin National Veteran's Cemetery. While there (we were early) we walked around and someone asked if we had any questions. So hubby thot to ask about Fort Ord and they told us it was opening in October and they gave us contact information. So got home and emailed and the ball was rolling! Heck it was racing!
What took the longest was trying to find a date which worked the best for me, hubby, and all the kids!
And so they were finally laid to rest on a most beautiful sunny day in May - a perfect golf day!
Because we dont live down there (yet!) we had no home to invite people to for an after ceremony get together - plus we needed to find some place close that could handle a large table - so we hosted lunch at Black Bear Diner afterwards - it was fun