Sunday, February 20, 2011

I am old

Gosh I feel old....and grumpy. But I realize I am very old fashioned and getting more so all the time.

  • A person I know is having her 3d baby. The same sex as the first. And the other on is only about 3 years old or so. And she is having a baby shower. I am old fashioned - why does she need another baby shower? It has not been a decade since the other baby - there has not been a huge life style change - it is not a different sex.....Yes, I know any baby should be a reason to celebrate - 8 page registry at Babies R Us????? As well as several pages at Target???? And no, it is not all diapers that she registered for.....
  • Another little yuppy who feels entitled to things is having a jewelry party. You know, come and spend lots of money on things you really dont need so I can get something free. She cant have one for her friends because all their husbands are out of work and most have had towalk away from their houses (but that is okay cause they didnt like living where those houses are anyway) so she is having one for her work friends - because of course they can afford to spend money on the crap.

Can you guess I will not be going to either one? Actually, I still have my house, but I cant afford and should not spend money on that crap either - and more importantly, I do not need it. Remember, I am trying to get RID of stuff (just went thru one of my jewelry boxes and set aside a bunch of earrings and things for my granddaughter!! Dont need to fill up those spaces!).

Another friend has announced she is getting a divorce after 20 years. Says she has come to the realization that her marriage is not worth it - it is based on convenience and not love. She affirms that her husband is a great guy and she does, and will always, care for him but she is not in love with him. Said she has come to the realization that she no longer knows who she is or want she wants. Of course my hubby says there has to be more involved. I say - hey - why waste his time and her time in a marriage if it is only based on convenience.

Unlike another friend who puts up with a verbally & emotionall abusive husband who destroys her sentimental family items when he is ticked at her - because she does not want to lose money on the house that is no longer worth what it was - and does not want to hand over 1/2 her retirement when she is almost near retirement age. I say - yeah, stay with him, and when that anger overflows into actually abusing the grandbaby that lives with him - saving that house and retirement will be well worth it.

And the other one who is keeping her marriage going because she does not want her step son to go back to the mother or have her children raised without a father because she will not be able to support them while she pays him alimony....yeah, these are all great reasons to keep marriages together.

But then again, I am only hearing one side of these stories - and I have always maintained there are 3 sides to these - hers, his, and theirs.

Ok, done ranting for now, off my soap box. Now kids, turn that damn music down!!!! I am old and grumpy!!!

1 comment:

MLJ1954 said...

While you are feeling Grumpy, your post made me smile! I am like the sucker for every one who is having a jewelry or book or toy party. Why? I don't know. I've made a point of not ordering and then one of my co-workers called me to find out not only IF I was going to order something but when I said "no," she asked "why?" I was struck dumb.

As to the baby shower thing, it makes me crazy. I do buy something though (its a guilt thing), but limit it to a package of diapers or wipes . . . in a store brand.

By the way, my coffee cup is a "Grumpy" cup . . . I think I'll take a pic and post it on my blog!